Research shows that confident children become happier and more successful adults. If you struggled with confidence as a child, you understand how a lack of self-confidence can negatively impact one’s life as an adult. And I’m sure you don’t want your children, nieces, or nephews to experience this same thing. 

Here are a few tips to help improve self-confidence in children so they can be better equipped to face life’s challenges. 

1. Praise effort, not results 

Praise (without overdoing it) your child’s efforts instead of focusing on the outcome or results. It’s important for children to understand that they won’t always get the outcome they want in life, but trying is important. 

2. Help your child identify his or her strengths

We all have strengths. The more you emphasize and highlight your child’s strengths, the more you boost their confidence. This is not to say we completely ignore their weaknesses. However, focusing on weaknesses may discourage your child’s efforts. 

3. Be careful how you respond to failure

Remember that kids do as we do, not as we say. Respond to mistakes & failures in a positive way. This will teach them not to dwell on mistakes or let failure get in their way. When we fail, children need to see that it’s possible to dust ourselves off and move on. 

4. Avoid harsh and unnecessary criticism 

Criticism should be given with love. Avoid using words that may negatively impact your child’s life. For instance, instead of saying “why are you not getting it, it’s so easy.” Rather use encouraging words like, “try again, you’ll get it.”

5. Spend quality time together

Make time for your children to make it clear they’re valuable. Give them your undivided attention and really be present. You can demonstrate this by doing special activities together such as eating dinner or getting ready for bed. The more time you spend together, the more their self-worth increases.

6. Don’t compare them to others

Growing up, I used to hear these words a lot “don’t be like so and so.” I understand my parents were trying to ensure I don’t turn out to be a bad child, but it sounded like a comparison to me. Children always want to make their parents proud. However, the moment we start comparing them to others (siblings, friends, or classmates), it makes them doubt themselves and therefore lose self-confidence.

7. Be a good role model

Because children tend to adopt our behaviours, you must demonstrate confidence yourself. Admit when you’re anxious or fearful, but don’t let this define who you are. If you need help building your self-confidence, contact us by clicking here.